Melayu
November 25th, 2005
Did the image above mean anything to you? Did it stir any emotion? Did it raise questions? Or do you think it’s just neat?
Before you start groaning “Ohh, there he goes again on his ‘artistic’ bullshit”, I’m not here to discuss art. I’d like bring a more important issue. That image above was composed by a personal friend of mine. He’s not an art student, nor did he have a tormented childhood. He’s just an over-imaginative fellow who is currently under abuse of his engineering subjects. And yes, he’s a Malay.
While I have been advocating cross-cultural relationships [not just romantic ones], it’s sometimes interesting to observe what’s going on in your own field. If you think Malaysia is a colourful blend of a multiracial society, it’s even more interesting to note that each race has its own spectrum of people.
As a Malay myself, I have faced several personal dilemmas dealing with my own kin. Five years ago I would think, hey, they’re Malays like me, we should be able to get along just fine cause our mentality would be the same. Today, that idea is worth less than candy.
Before I go any further, I want to make it clear that I’m not one single bit ashamed of my race. I’m not about to tarnish its identity, either. I’m just speaking out how I feel on certain things. Are we clear? Good.
Now.
I’m still only 20 years young, but I would like to think I have met every kind of Malay [local ones, that is] there is to be met. And boy, am I amazed. I have come across people who think Malays are so high and mighty and deserve every damn right to privileges. I have spoken to Malays to are so ashamed of being a Malay they decided to denounce themselves as Malays, even to the extent of resisting to speak in Malay. I have befriended plenty of Malays who just don’t give a fuck.
And that’s just some of them.
There have been times when I shake my head at how gullible and cheap some Malays are. I saw this bunch of Malays who look at a chick who dresses rather suggestively. Make that, staring at her with unblinking eyes. And after she’s passed along, they shake their head in disgust.
“Oh dosa,…dosa…”
Those poor hypocritic motherfuckers. I have also come across some who can’t speak proper English, but instead of embracing the ones that can, they shun the latter. Back in school, the Malays who did well for their exams were left alone, while the bunch of mediocres proudly parade their D’s and C’s, and each trying to make it sound like they got the worst results.
“Ko kan bijak, takyah campur ngan kitorang yang bodoh bangang nhi. Buat rugi kau je.”
Yeah, you just proved your own point there, Einstein. This is something I just can’t accept. But there’s more. A huge lot of these bunch condemn their kin that date non-malays, thoughtlessly accusing the said person is just ‘too good for someone of their own race’. They fear all types of Chinese food, even if the perfectly halal ones. They forward hoax and chain emails without a second thought, and freely spam YM lists with pointless messages.
The ones who don’t share this mentality with them are immediately fired upon.
“Tak sedar diri.”
“Melayu lupa daratan”
“Mat Saleh celup”
These bunch listen only to Malay songs [because they can't understand songs in other languages], and the ones that don’t [like myself] are immediately labelled “tak sokong orang Melayu”. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT!? I bet a bulk of them can’t appreciate the artwork up there either. Some that go into business attempts with other non-malays. But when things fuck up they’re so quick so say “Cina dengki,” or “Mamak celaka,” under their breaths. Don’t believe me? Yes, that’s the reality. I don’t sugarcoat my shits, I leave it to you how you want to digest it.
To hear and witness such things hurt me. Deeply, if I may add.
Honestly, I don’t think it’s us who are the ones that “lupa daratan”. It’s they who forget who they are. No, they don’t forget the fact that they’re malays. But they forget they’re ultimately humans. They forget their own flaws. They soak in their own vanity and self-righteousness that they forget to look outside. And there’s just SO many of them. After saying all that, I feel like I’ve become one of them already. See?
I am saddened because I don’t know what I can do to change it.
While you may think I’m a ‘liberal’ Malay, speaking freely like this, I still try remain true to my roots. I was brought up in a very traditional and religious household. I was taught Malay manners, which are heavily dictated by Islamic doctrines. But my parents knew better. They didn’t want me to turn out as a person who doesn’t have a sense of respect for women, one who doesn’t understand social manners, and one who prefers mediocrity over excellence.
While being brought up with strong Malay values, they also made sure I was able to converse in English before I set foot in primary school. I was taught to bow and extend my right hand forward when walking in front of elders. Plenty of my typical Malay habits are hardwired, not into my brain, but into my body. There’s quite a few things that I do yet not even realise I do them.
I look into the eyes of the person whose hand I’m shaking.
I put my hand to my heart after the handshake.
I blabber out ‘Ya Allah!’ when I accidentally step into a drain.
I prefer eating with my hands.
I laugh with a horribly loud voice.
I make plenty of small talks.
I don’t speak when elders are speaking.
I prefer sarungs over anything else.
I hate vegetables. [uh,.. okay. Most malays can't live without greens. heheh, sorry]
But there’s also a lot of Malay-ness factors that are absent from me. I think in English, not in Malay [hence my poor ability of conversing and writing in formal Malay]. I don’t play football, nor do I care about it. I don’t smoke just because a lot of my friends do. I don’t look at a pair of tits and die of excitement [I've watched enough pr0n to already]. I don’t listen to mainstream Malay music, nor bother about the Malay celebrities. And I hate AF.
“Ha, kau tak kenal Nur Fazura? Kau ni Melayu ke?”
“Kau tak minat AF? Kau ni Melayu ke?”
Pukimak kau.
I know what I have been raving here isn’t limited only to Malays and that each race has their own share of dilemmas. I also know that I’m not the only Malay shackled to this torment. There’s quite a unmber of us out there. I know, I’ve met plenty of them.
But as I said, I’m just voicing out the cries of my heart. Some time ago, I had this talk with a friend, who was of mixed Chinese-Malay parentage. At one point she asked me “What kind of Malay do you think I am, then?”. I didn’t know what to say. So I gave as honest an answer as I could;
“You’re just like me, I guess. Just a Malay trying to find out what being Malay truly means.”
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This is very well-written and I understand your angst. If only more parents were like yours, and more Malay youths were more open minded and not so insecure as to think speaking English would make them “less patriotic”.
Silencers: You humble me ^^
dude, my salute to you. this is a good post!
Silencers: Wah, THE mike ooi gave me a thumbs up :D
Excellent commentary. What you said can be applied to all races me thinks – there are always insular bigots amongst whichever group. Having said that, your dilemma is also complicated by the fact that you are Malay in Malaysia – what will all the NEP stuff, PAS, old-school UMNO politics to add into the mix.
But I enjoy the read – thanks for voicing your thoughts. :)
Silencers: Yeah, political disputes bother me sometimes. What with the racial slur in the parliament, student quota, etc. I’m practically out of ideas >.<
My dear Kuching, I think you could insert a full stop after the word ‘insecure’. As to the last bit, it is probably due to the fact that they weren’t fluent in English and little to do with patriotism.
Silencers: Patriotism has been widely used as an excuse to avoid improving their English. When I look around me, I can only wonder if patriotism means anything to anyone anymore.
sigh. methinks one of the problems of people trying to advocate that we build our own Malaysian identity instead of latching on to other cultures is that some seem to misinterpret it as an act of rejecting everything remotely connected with Western culture, including language.
and as for people who self-righteously point a finger at others…..Well, people who justify their morality by pointing out flaws in others are misguided, aren’t they? It’s not a race issue, it’s a morality issue. To be a real Malaysian, I reckon the first thing you need is a big heart, the better to welcome everyone, and I don’t just mean the three main races……It is bad enough when you “Tolerate” the existence of people different from you, like a pest that you are willing to live with. It is worse when you segregate based on someone’s acceptance of the multi-cultural aspect of Malaysia (that really should be spread worldwide), when really, such behaviour should be encouraged.
I guess I get upset because language is one of the biggest signs of how multi-cultural a country is. The more an average citizen speaks, the more they’re in touch with other cultures. The insularity of it all is an insult to everyone, the person who does it, the people who will be associated with it, the people who are avoided.
Hah. Rambling.
Silencers: I don’t fancy finger-pointing, myself. I avoid doing so unless I can come up with a solution, which, in this case, I couldn’t. Which upsets me as well. I agree with your sentiments and appreciate them greatly, yes I do. The issue here, however, isn’t so much about racial integration or tolerance or acceptance :)
It’s just a personal dilemma. Yes, a dilemma of morality.
you know what? one of the more honest post i have read in pps in a long, long time. too bad million of other malaysians can’t think like you.
Silencers: Don’t make my head swell any more please, I’m afraid I might lose it should it fall off ^^;;
I understand you completely, man. I have a couple of Malay friends who understood that life wasn’t a bed of roses. They worked just as hard while in college, school, etc. I remembered one of them was so proud that he could enter University without the need for government help because his results were excellent. I admire people like that. The Malay race is perfectly fine. But there are people out there (Malays and non-Malays included) need to realize that the government can only help that much. Our life is written the way we want it to be. Cheers, dude.
Ohh…Pukimak kau tau la pulak…HAHAHAAHAHAHAH!
On serious note, I share your view man. Awesome stuff.
same here…i worked hard to be where i am today without those kerajaan datuk datin ties and crap… or ‘my dad knows someone in the uni thats how i got in’ stuff ( if thats the case keep it to urself lahhh dont go around telling ppl)……
but being the malay i am today…. around the malays i know…. its like being stuck in between two kinds… one kind is the malays who hangs out with malays and non-malays(esp those laid-back types) who hangs out with malays.. its just in their nature i guess either because they speak better in malay or maybe they see sth attractive in malays that others dont such as the lepak culture….then theres malays whos ashamed of being a malay and they dont even talk malay and when i tell them about my probs the best thing they can say is…’thats why you should be like me….see i hang around chinese..ull never regret it’…enough to say i swear i will never ever date a malay despite being one…..my prob is… i cant imagine hanging out with both types at the same time…and i quite enjoy both…
[...] The Silent Room grapples with what kind of Malay he is. “While being brought up with strong Malay values, they also made sure I was able to converse in English before I set foot in primary school. I was taught to bow and extend my right hand forward when walking in front of elders. Plenty of my typical Malay habits are hardwired, not into my brain, but into my body. There’s quite a few things that I do yet not even realise I do them.” [...]
If you ask me, I would say it all boils down to the kind of people holding power in office. All that you see happening in the country and with your race is a result of years of “mind-shaping” policies implemented by the government.
Silencers: I don’t care why it happened or who made it happen. I want a solution. And pointing fingers is definitely not it.
I totally agree dude. I think at some point most of those tagged ‘mat saleh celup’ feel as strongly on the dilema melayu issue, myself included; but soon after realize that a solution will not be realized anytime soon and they will always be shunned and just stopped caring.
Although the thing that totally pisses me off is the stereotyping of people who speak good and proper english as obnoxious and ‘murtad’-prone… and comments like “… tak sedar diri” and “…nak jadi macam orang kafir” … sheesh… someone once labelled me as “..yang tak tahu ape tu” (refering to my devotion and practice of Islam)… bloody sonsofbitches!!! when I say “Oh my God” I mean God as in Allah lah… bodoh betul.
I love your post. I am going to print it and keep a copy.
bless.
Silencers: I’m speechless ^^
But I guess not many know what is the root of the problem. They just know how to open mouth and complain.
Silencers: If you’re talking about me, then I admit I’m complaining quite a lot. I believe I have the right to. Besides, if the people you speak of really are the root of the problem, what do you propose for a solution, then? As I said, it doesn’t matter the what’s, who’s or why’s. It’s already happened. You can’t go back in time to change it. What I’d like to know, [after you took the trouble of pointing out the supposed source of the problem] is what any of us can do NOW to fix the problem.
It’s plain irresponsible to point out the wrong without having thought of a way to make it right. It’s basically the same thing you’re accusing people of; to open mouth and complain.
I believe that education is key. Your parents had the good foresight to educate and to instill into you some skills which I believe would be priceless in the long run.
As for the post in general, I don’t think I need to make you float any higher than you probably are. Heh heh :)
So you’re 20 years old and tried to make commentary on Malay people as if you are much more better than the typical malay guy. Ok been there done that. I believe the stuff u wrote over there is just a trait of arrogance and rebellious nature that is typical for a 20 years old. My advice to you is just relax a bit-lah, as i said before i’ve been there myself I’ve been kinda arrogant and looked down on people not just my own,as if i am much-much more better than others. Now im almost 23 years old and regretted those attitude that i’ve had earlier in life, i wish i’ve treated people better and with much more respect.
p/s: Anyway i dont think there’s anything wrong listening Malay songs, i shun away listening to Malay songs earlier in life but now being so far away from home, Malay songs are the one dominating my playlist.
Silencers: My arrogance, ignorance and naivety shines through my age, doesn’t it? I acknowledge that, and it’s very thoughtful of you to point it out. Considering you’re just about my age, I’m sure we’re pretty much in the same bandwidth of thought. By the way, I said I’m 20 years ‘young’. I don’t perceive myself as old, yet. Oh, no no no.
I have always treated people with respect, as I always expect to be treated the same way. Alas, such ideals are only true in a perfect world; and it doesn’t happen to be the one I’m living in. You, perhaps, may have looked down on them [and regretted it]; but I haven’t. I have never looked down on the Malays [or anyone for that matter] who live by their adat, who are graceful, who are kind, who are respectful, and who can tell the difference between right and wrong. I have never thought of myself as superior, because such people have humbled me too many times.
I looked at them as peers, as ones I can cooperate with. I mentioned how I first established my mindset about these people. I believed I could work together with them, us being of the same ancestry. It’s so happens that I have been dissapointed for having too high an expectation. In case my honesty angers you, it may be because there’s a part of you that I mentioned and struck you. For that, you have my apologies; but not my regrets.
I did not even once condemn Malay songs. I never shunned them either. I just said I don’t listen to mainstream Malay music, and have been condemned for that, but I have good reasons [which isn't the current issue at hand] to dislike the aforementioned type of music. I’m a big fan M Nasir, P Ramlee, Sudirman, Zainal Abidin, OAG and a fewother select Malay artist whose songs are not just about jiwang rindu and/or cinta. I can’t agree more with you, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with listening to Malay songs because I enjoy a lot of it. The non-mainstream ones, that is.
You mentioned yourself being so far away from home, you must be studying overseas. I envy you. And I would kick myself for such under achievement. You yourself strive for excellence, do you not? And having travelled far away, you must have had many eye-opening experiences. For that, you have my respect. I still don’t understand what you mean by asking me to relax a bit. I’m as relaxed a Malay as I could be, and I’m the one being shunned for it.
Perhaps, this slight misunderstanding is because we don’t know each other personally. You’d make a wonderful acquaintance ^^ Thanks for stopping by.
Your post reminded me of one thing. I have a close friend who’s a Chin-Lay. My first Muslim friend, I would say. I do not have a lot of Muslim friends, kenalan got la, but friends… Well anyway, what is different about her is that she speaks very fluent English, and she thinks in English, yet she has that very distinct Malay’ness sopan-santun about her. I once commented she is very Westernised (upon reflection, the correct word should have been liberal, and not Westernised I think)… and she got pretty upset about that. She told me firmly that she does not like being called a mat salleh celup, and being fluent in English and admiring piercings and body art does not mean she is a lesser Muslim. And she is proud to have Malay blood in her.
Would you have felt the same way if you were labelled a mat salleh celup?
Silencers: If anyone is going to label me anything, they’d better have a solid reason or two. Otherwise I’ll label my foot in their face.
Hey didnt expect a long reply for the short posting i made early on :). Anyway its good to know that you didn’t look down on others and didnt consider those with differing views inferior compared to yours. Im not in a position of judging you and has never intended to,it just struck me that you had some of the qualities i had back then, i dont know why but sometimes i guess it’d be worthwhile to share your life experience with others.
Silencers: I believe we call that ‘clicking’ with each other ^^
Dude, *hats off* a brilliant post, and the best part is, it made sense, alot of em.
most of the malay r just racist in malaysia, eg malay from kelantan, melaka, kedah and KL.they r arrogant and extreme islamic thinking. they believe that both chinese and indian are intruder to malaysia. make sure u drive proton in malaysia otherwise they will hate u :P
Silencers: So you’re saying Malays from Perak, Johor and the rest are not? And what proof do you have of them saying the other races are ‘intruders’? You might think you made an escape route by saying ‘most’, but that’s too cheap. Nobody buys cheap arguments.
Don’t make sweeping statements. And get some solid info to bite on before you spew out anything. You don’t want to piss people off, especially if they’re in the local blogosphere.
You know what I think of this, bro. =) Simply lovely piece, as always.
I agree with the commentors. Best post I’ve read in a while. It’s true that every race has their own dilemma. Just a few weeks back I got an email listing the benefits of sending one’s kid to vernacular schools [I googled 'vernacular schools' just to make sure i got the meaning right. Guess what was the first few entries :P] the problem was, only one of the points made sense. The rest were just insecure reasons. When I wrote a reply, rebutting most of the points, one fella wrote back, “just send you kids there. end of story”. Without any plausible explanation for his statement. I guess the root is, we accept things without thinking. Many don’t strive to find the reason behind things are the way they are [i don't mean you], but rather they like to follow whatever it is everyone else is doing. They just love to draw a circle and live happily within it.
This is the kind of views I’ve been waiting to hear. A Malay who thinks in English. A Malay who thinks like a human. It’s so rare to find people like you in the public university I’m in. Your blog is in my bookmark now.
Silencers: Glad to hear that ^^. The phrase “Your blog is in my bookmark now” reminds me of the countless spam which contained those words, back in the comments on my old Blogger blog, LOL.
It’s refreshing to hear your perspective on the matter :) I was afraid of asking my Malay friends such questions in case they get offended, it’s a good thing you cleared up a lot of things for us blur people ;) I also noticed a few groups of Malays, and the ones I can click most with are the ones who can speak English and can mix with all races. Wished there were more people like that, not just Malays but other races as well. Cheers mate!
your entry just blew my mind :) a very well-written piece and the art just leave me breathless….i think you’re the first malay i’ve met who can write such a post, with your strong enthusiasm tattoed into every word :)
those malays that i’ve met are the other type, who rarely speak in english and well, condemn chinese.i’m glad that there’s still guys like you in this world. you make the world worth living, and hey, it’s a nice thought that there’s still ppl like u to brighten up this world from all the pollution, be it in human or air :) cheers.
Got your link through a friend’s blog. I must say, well done!
First of all, may I commend on your ability to separate your emotions from your writing? Your replies to rrazali showed your maturity which goes beyond your 20-years-young. :) Its rare to meet someone as level-headed as you! (I hope your head hasn’t fallen off yet!)
I have the same problem – being a Malay & English educated Chinese. Society label me as a ‘banana’ (yellow outside but white inside). Personally, I despise the tag for it borders on racism. How does one define their ethnicity really? Certainly, it has nothing to do with what songs you listen to, the way you dress or the way you practice your religion. No, at the end of the day, it boils down to who you are, deep inside.
I have many Malay friends. I love eating with my hands at my best friend’s house (Yes, she is PURE Malay!). I speak fluent Malay just like the other Chinese in our multi-racial gang. I love Malay songs, so do some of my Chinese friends. My Malay friends ask for nice upbeat Chinese songs to listen to. I am fascinated by the Malay culture and its religion – Islam. On general, most of my Malay friends are quite liberal and we respect each other. Best of all, we are still in contact and meet up once a year. We celebrate, motivate and cheer each other on, regardless of skin color and religion.
That, I think, is the result of planting a seed called ‘tolerance’. If being tolerant and mixing with people other than your race is called ‘bukan Melayu’ or ‘lupa daratan’ then I shudder to think what the world is coming to. My symphathies to those who thinks so.
Silencers: My Malaysian Studies lecturer made a remark on using the word ‘tolerance’ when it comes to racial harmony;
“You tolerate pain. You tolerate annoying things. You tolerate what makes you angry. Do you really ‘tolerate’ the non-Malay, or non-chinese, or non-Indian person sitting beside you? No, class, I believe the keyphrase here isn’t ‘to tolerate’. I’d rather say, ‘accept’ and ‘understand’.
We accept each others’ differences. We understand each others’ customs. We appreciate each others’ qualities. That’s how harmony is created and maintained.”
I leave it for you to decide :) Thanks for the visit :D
Thanks for the reply!
I stand corrected. I accept your point that there’s just that far one can ‘tolerate’. ‘Accept and understand’ would be more apt. However, would it be wrong to say that one starts from tolerating to understanding and then accepting the differences in others?
Looking forward to reading your blog!
Silencers: No, it’s not wrong. Good things come from change, even if its a slow and gradual process :)
the issue may not be fresh, but the writing is… me likey! =D
The only thing I agree with you is that you do love your self too much. Is there any positive cell left in your body? Why all the hatred, I suppose this all goes back to your childhood. You think you were brought up in proper Malay Muslim environment, I doubt it. Yours is far as Pluto. I, for one lived overseas half my life but proud to be Muslim and Malay. Many of us do, unlike fakes like u. Sembahyang itu mencegah dari perkara yang keji dan mungkar. Post this if you dare.
Silencers: Which nerve of yours did I hit? Let me hit it again.
I love myself too much? Yeah, that might explain why I don’t carry a gun and fight for the nation out in the front lines. I’m such a coward, despite all my monster kills in DoTA. Next. Positive cells left in my body? Did you mistake me for a battery or transistor or diode of any sort, cause I’m sick of listening to all that during my classes. This all does go back to my childhood I suppose. Probably played too much polissentri, bottlecap or watched too much Thundercats. I probably didn’t read enough newspapers or watched enough news to grow up into a matured person like you. Next.
Well, I DO believe I was brought up in a proper Muslim environment considering my Dad doesn’t come home in a drunken stupor every night [god forbid]. I’m as far as Pluto? Geez, TM sure has expanded their business big time, but I’m sure their connection would still suck a goat’s dick if it got there. Next. You lived half your life overseas? I bet you have no idea who Keluang Man is [don't bother googling for him, it's a waste of time]. That might also explain your lack courtesy by suddenly erupting here at me when you have NO idea who I am. I AM BIG SCARY PERSON LOVE TO SMACK GODZILLA’S ASS WITH KING KONG TOYS.
*cough*
Fake? Are you saying I’m not proud to be a Muslim, not proud to be a Malay? Eh, you sure you didn’t miss out on any paragraphs cause you sound like you skipped a hell of a lot of things. Sembahyang itu memang mencegah dari perkara yang keji dan mungkar. Aaaaaaand this comes under what assumption? That I ponteng sembahyang? Fuiyoh, you’re a damn psychic to be able to tell that just by reading ONE of my entries. I envy that ability [not]. As far as I remember, dengki dan fitnah tu perkara yang keji dan mungkar. Sapa yang ponteng sembahyang niiiiii…..
Post this if I dare? OMGWTFBBQLOLOL,….You’re fucking kidding me – right?
note: if you were attempting to piss me off, well,…. try better next time, n00b. Kill a kitten or something. Googling for ‘melayu murtad’, landing here, and then flaming me, all this WHILE USING IE… proves you’re a noob.
LMAO, somebody got owned good :D.
[...] A long while back, I made a commentary about the Malays around me. I was honestly surprised at the sheer amount of positive responses I received. So I enjoyed a few minutes of fame, but then, it all came to pass and eventually I myself never did bother about it as more and more things came into my life and displaced that post away, tucked deeply in the archives. [...]
Fuck You. Kutuk bangsa sendiri! Cuba la suruh bangsa lain kutuk bangsa dia…agak2 diorang open minded tak!!!!!
Silencers: Sekurang-kurangnya aku tak hipokrit. Sekurang-kurangnya aku sedar diri aku siapa. Sekurang-kurangnya aku tak melarikan diri dari kebenaran. Mahathir sendiri pun kecewa bangs sendiri la weh. Ko ingat takde orang yang tulis pasal bangsa sendiri? Ramai, beb. Ramai. Ko tu je yang tak tau apa-apa.
Kau camane? Ko ni mesti budak sengal dari UiTM kan? Padanla cara bercakap pun berterabur. Dahla search ‘nur fazura’ pastu landing sini. Mesti kau rasa bodo macam kambing tercekik tepung, kan? Lepas ni pegila forward kat member2 kau dlm list YM tu, suruh diorang benci aku nih. Bagus kan?
Memang nampak sangat Bull ni tak tahu apa. Mana – mana kaum pun memang akan ada baik buruk dia. Bukan Melayu je yang kerja kutuk kaum sendiri – bangsa lain pun ada, cuma mungkin sebab kita ni Melayu, jadi tak berapa perasan sangat. Yang kita nampak, orang kutuk Melayu je.
Sekurang – kurangnya sahabat kita ni perasan hal ni, takde la nak duduk hari – hari fikir orang Melayu ni bagus sangat sampaikan orang tegur sikit, terus melatah. Lepas tu cakap ikut suka hati. Memanglah sampai bila – bila takkan maju.
Melayu ke, apa ke, manusia jugak beb. Masing – masing boleh buat apa dia nak. Takde orang tetapkan undang – undang “Melayu wajib suka Nur Fazura”. Kalau tak suka, tak sukalah. Tak payah nak paksa!
Go Silencers :D
Your post is truly refreshing although it comes with a lot of agnst and frustration. The fact that you have these feelings comes from alot of pain and it pains you becuase the truths you expose are true.
I am not Malay but when I was going to school here many moons ago, I had very good Malay pals. We were just buddies and the question of Malayness never came up. These same Malays have become insular, lost their confidence and crawled into the being Malay shell, just as you have described, but with an oldr generation. It has sadden me to no end.
How can we have a truly enterprising, futuristic Malaysia with this xenophobic outlook? We need to rid our schools of that fantical, radical Muslim teachings that want everyone back to the dark ages. Be a good Musliim by all means. I respect that.You do that by conquring your insecurity and fears. Build confidence especially among the young, so you can take on any challenge. Come up to these challenges or globalization will eat Malaysia alive.
Stay on it !
Hey, just crossed this article of yours. Nice post! As a Malay myself, I second your thoughts and opinions. Honestly, this post is truly amazing. I had the same experience like yours. Looking forward to reading your blog! Can I link my blog to yours? Can I?
Silencers: Sure thing, it would be my honor :)
thumbs-up!!!!
i agree wif u all the way!
If only I have more students like you debating things n stuff, watmore able to express one’s feelings romantically and passionately!!! I dont hate malays coz i am one. But what I hate the most is the ‘shallow’HAL in most of them… Am I rite? Hmmm….. I like your dazz. Till later, bye
i didnt know how i got here…. defenitely i didnt type fazura and got stuck here…. haha… anyway, it’s a good post bro… not becoz u kutuk melayu or your own bangsa (and i dun think this is an anti malay post, it’s how u feel)…. it’s good becoz u manage to see things in a different way… some different angle where most ppl dun look or simply refuse to look from…. i haf lotsa malay frens and i think they are awesome ppl…..somehow (as the saying says rambut sama hitam, hati lain2), there are also the kinda ppl like those u mentioned in ya post and very often i try to ignore these ppl….
Fuck up u all blady bastard….mother fucker.
Silencers: Wooo… takutnya.
a’kum
I like this post, its mind refreshing, bold and true in its meaning. I come from a mix parentage of Malay and Chinese and being only in my mid 20s, I’ve seen things good and bad from both sides of the world, i guess. I am borned as a muslim and raised as one. My friends comes fro both sides right upto now.
When reading the post, most of the things mentioned in there I have experienced and it frustrates me most. I just want to add in may be one or two more of my experience regarding this. My father is a converted chinese freethinker. I still do remember as little boy, a friend of his (a malay muslim) we met in town during the holy month of Ramadan invited him for a drink at the coffee shop just as to cover him up if he ever was going to be nabbed by the JAIS. but no, showing me the good way of a muslim, he declined politely. this occured as well in the office (dad mentinoed it to me), when a group of ladies, unable to perform their fast as they were having period, asked my dad for help to buy food for them from outside just to cover up their act. again he declined. another embarassing thing that happened was that when we were out to the ramadan bazaar , a friend of his from the department (much younger than him i gueass at that time) exclaimed loudly, “you puasakah? eh betulkah?” and seemed unbelievable to his ears again he asked.come on, maybe he tamat many times more than you! I mean what is this?! should they all be an example and to give encouragement to their new mualaf brother? hmm, may be i am out of topic here a little bit.
I have noticed somethings when i go to a bank. i dun know whether it only has been only happening to me. I must say here before i go on, i am not being racialist. I love to go to the counter with a chinese operating the counter. may be, in most, if not all gov agencies, you’ll see this trend. the chinese talk less and concentrate on whatever they re doing. efficient, and we can get to settle what ever we are doing and out of the bank in no time. while if the person incharge is a malay, bad luck, youll be somehow delayed. they will gossip (sometimes loudly!) with their malay friends at the next counter, if the tv is on which is meant for the waiting customers, their eyes would occasiaonally be distracted from the job to watch whatever is going on on tv, esp if AF, siti nuhaliza etc, so what! just get the job done and we out of here!! Sometimes you just cant stand the gossip they are talking (loud remember), too degrading and too embarassing to one’s ears. the only time they’ll do better would be when they are flanked by 2 chinese workers. no doubt i do agree some malay workers are excellent and not easily distracted.
on time punctuality, huh, malays are amongst the worst. That’s why during my uni days, i prefer to find a group with less bumis when we are supposed to submit a group project. if there are bumis in there, i’ll have to be picky. i have had enough of this in my matriculation and secondary school years, don we just love to burn our midnight oil, thanks to some uncooperative members.all bores down to the rilek dulu, hisap gum attitude, my foot! the bumis just need to be pushed and pushed to get their job done.sometimes they might get the wrong idea and starts shunning away from us. in the end, they still get the good result by just hanging around what? sending the report to the binding shop? while the other more deserving members break their back to get things done…. nicely. There is no need to complaint to anyone.it just raises your blood pressure. you tell them nicely and what do you get? same as those noted by the respective blogger…
ah what the heck, thats just some of my sharing. I mean not all malays are no good,i have great ones too. each and every race has its own weaknesses. (hasnt God tells us to belajar dari kaum terdahulu no? or if we wnat to improve ourselves that particular kaum will have to improve themselves first? look it as half glass full. i learned to take the good points from all the people around the world
Silencers: I’m ashamed to admit that my tardiness is quite,… problematic, lol. But yeah, many Malays fail to realise their flaws and improve on them. It takes quite a bit of courage for you to accept your mistakes, and a lot of people just happen to lack it.
aku pon tak suke AF dan aku x penah tgk pon AF sepanjang hidop aku dan aku sgt bengang bile ade perkataan ‘AF’ kat laman utame utusan online bile nk bacer paper berbahase melayu…sorry, bkn nk ckp pasal AF yg membuatkan anak bangse senantiase terawang-awangan.
setuju jugak dgn ape yg ko ckp, even kat tmpt aku ni selalu kitorang bincang pasal masalah anak bangse kite..
knp nk condem bangse lain atas kekurangan bangse kite?knp xnk sedar dengan kekurangan kite sendiri?..bangse kite terlalu asyik dan tenggelam dlm hiburan yg berlebihan,lebih seronok tgk mawi drpd tgk discovery channel yg byk bg input yg boleh membina minda..
aku sendiri pon byk kelemahan jugak,tp bersyukur sbb menyedari kelemahan sendri,,
came across this post as i was searching for articles on melayu murtad. a very refreshing one indeed and i find your views awesome. i’m from singapore and woah, let me tell you that we have malays here who act just like what you described above. i had some pretty bad experience with the malays in the service line. and i had a friend who labelled another friend murtad just because this fella prefers to be in the company of the chinese. till now, i still prefer to be mixing around with the non-malays cuz tak menyakitkan hati. and i’m very ashamed when my chinese friends enquire about the contradicting and negative behaviour of the malays.
anyhoos, keep it up! i would love to see more thought provocating views like yours! :)
Cilakak lu kutuk UiTM. Budak MMU lagi la sengal. Hang ni kena extend berapa kali dah? Hahaha.
Nur Fazura FTW!
Great post!
Wah reminds me of that time I met Nur Fazura and went “eh you’re one of the girls in Gol Dan Gincu right? I don’t remember which one…”