Kalau Kahwin
September 22nd, 2005So another one of my siblings is going to get married soon. He found himself a nice lady from Terengganu and I believe we’ll be able to get along just fine. I made a remark about my first sister in-law, whose parents also happen to be from Terengganu, eventhough she herself was born in PJ. Somehow, I was wondering if all 4 of us would be wedded to poeple from the East Coast. But suddenly a weird question crossed my mind when I went for lunch with Dad. We were talking about the mumbo-jumbo and whatever proceedings of the wedding ceremony [you know la how Malay weddings are, merisik lah, hantaran lah, nikah la, and god knows what else.] and when the question of a multi-racial wedding comes into mind.
Me: Apasal Mak kecoh sangat pasal hantaran la, bunga telur la, hapa semua. Nak comel la, nak matching la.
Dad: Kata nak best. Kalau tak nak best takyah susah-susah.
Me: Ayah, kalau saya kahwin orang Cina agaknye susah tak? Kang sebelah sana nak merah la, sini nak hijau la. Jadi aiskrim paddlepop nanti susah pulak.
Dad: Kahwin orang Cina? Kahwin sama-sama Melayu pun dah huru hara. What difference does it make? Duit habis jugak.
I know Mom would definitely give me a more complicated answer, inclusive of tea ceremonies or matching cheongsams or sarungs and curtains. Like this particular side would want these and those or our side would want this and that. Which, in the end, would basically mean the same thing after all.
You can tell that just I love conversations with Dad.
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Chinese weddings are a nightmare , before a bridegroom can enter to greet his bride , he must do all the tasks that list out by the ah lians whom stand between him and his bride .
“Dad: Kahwin orang Cina? Kahwin sama-sama Melayu pun dah huru hara. What difference does it make? Duit habis jugak.”
This is the coolest sentences yet !!!! 
Said YungJie
Aiskrim paddlepop. LOL! One advice – kalau kahwin orang Cina, pengsan nanti ‘cos orang Cina bukan main terror lagi bila nak kahwin. Semua mesti ada gaya, pokkai tak apa.
BTW, I tak pergi on Sunday la. My trip dah postpone. 
Said lilian
“Ayah, kalau saya kahwin orang Cina agaknye susah tak? Kang sebelah sana nak merah la, sini nak hijau la. Jadi aiskrim paddlepop nanti susah pulak. ”
Hahahaha!! 
Said Asyraf Lee
whoey, don’t play-play ah. You think malay wedding is bad, chinese weddings are 5x worse. money, relatives, customs, keep face. eayargh. 
Said simon
“whoey, don’t play-play ah. You think malay wedding is bad, chinese weddings are 5x worse. money, relatives, customs, keep face. eayargh. ”
I agree with you Simon.
Why marriege cannot be simple eh?
Why must spend excessively on the marriege alone, where the money can be put for later use for the couple. Sometimes I think that the others who urge the couple to spend more coz they never had such grand wedding before. It’s like 1st senior bully 2nd junior, when 2nd junior became 2nd senior, one will bully 3rd junior and this wil l go on and on. Sheesh, I dont understand humans. 
Said Asyraf Lee
Yung: My dad is cooleth.
Lilian: Haaa? You not coming? Aiyerr… another one kenot make it :/ and I was looknig forward to meet you summore
Simon: Let’s do a checklist on Malay weddings. Money, check. Relatives, check. Customs, triple check. Keep face, check. Oh, I see plenty of other shits unchecked, too. I bet it s a long list for Chinese and Indian weddings as well.
Asyraf: It’s a trait called vanity.
In the end, I suppose it’s like what my cousin’s husband said to me;
“It may be your wedding, but it’s never your event.”  Majulah sukan untuk negara. 
Said Silencers
wahhahaha….
i can just imagine my marriage soon..hahaha…!!! 
Said dJcarmen