The thing about forgiveness is really about asking for it rather than granting it. I mean, don’t you think it’s easier to forgive rather than ask to be forgiven. One of the reasons why friendships break and sweet things turn sour is because there’s a certain wall that you just can’t seem to tear down.

When there’s a misunderstanding, especially between close friends, the pain is more intense when the friendship is deeper. Even more so if there’s an exchange of romantic feelings.

Afraid to be seen as weak.
Afraid to be seen as being at fault.
Afraid of arguing.
Afraid of saying the things you don’t intend to say.
Afraid of getting yourself hurt.
Afraid of getting the other person hurt.

And then you decide to avoid all this. By avoiding your friend completely. Because really, the thing that makes asking for forgiveness such a difficult task isn’t really about your pride. It’s about your fears, isn’t it? I can’t be more obvious when it comes to pointing out that problems won’t get solved if you’re stubborn. It doesn’t help if you keep pointing fingers, either.

Tear it down. That wall of fear, that is.

If you keep waiting for the other person to open up, you’re going to have to wait for a long time before anything is solved. It’ll be a long awkward walk for both you. Go ahead, lower your head, speak clearly, and apologize. Of course, if the other person asks the same from you, open up and relief yourself of that burden.

That would make it much easier to live on the when sun rises later.